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In London, I saw the same thing I did in Paris, tons of black women with all types of men as partners. I remember seeing an advert of a couple getting ready for an evening out. It showed a montage of a black woman and white male prepping for their date together. The last scene was of the woman opening her door wearing a lovely evening dress while the spruce bachelor brought roses to his date.
I stood with my mouth gaping wide open in Victoria station. People glared at me and tripped over my excess baggage while I watched the ad for about 30 minutes.
I had stood in Grand Central station many times in my life and never seen an ad like this one. Without saying, I keep going back to Europe making going back home to the States as painful as a root canal. Simply put my love life in Europe is exactly like what my soothsayer co-worker told me it would be.
Each year I keep focusing my efforts on finding ways to stay permanently. Lesson 1 — Do not wait or depend on adult women friends to do big things with your life. If you want something, make it happen yourself. Lesson 2 — Learn a language.
Lesson 3 — Do not ignore the hard truth about time — You do not have forever. Lesson 4 — Life is not meant to be lived alone. Do want you need to find a partner or a husband. You deserve a mate. Please do not listen to these trolls because it is simply not true.
I have to say, I am happily and deliciously in love with a great black guy here in the US. I was seriously looking for work opportunities there when I found my guy. I think your advice is spot on. I do believe that far too many of us are holding our breaths and waiting for our black prince to emerge from the street around the corner from where we are.
And the reality is that he just might not be there. The world is large and filled with great people. We should definitely chip away the concrete around our feet and travel this great world… love is out there. I believe it, I believe it!! Go to Europe and Don't Look Back" — every site insists that black women in America are better off looking for love in another […].
I am a black Londoner born and bred, open to dating a man from any race, and I would whole-heartedly disagree with much of this post. I usually wish I had been born in the States as at least the black men do not wholeheartedly jump ship the way that they do here. Anyway I might get dismissed as a troll but I speak not only from my own experience but that of plenty of sistas out here.
If you do not believe me read this blog post that went viral which perfectly describes how black women in the UK are ignored by black men and the wider community: I hope the author of the post sees this, in fact I will send it to her. Personal experiences are just that, personal. You may be inspired to start packing […].
I always see happy interracial couples. I am currently in a relationship with a French West African man. I met him while I was in Paris when I was married to my ex husband. He gave us his card with his number and email address, we communicated over the years however he never flirted he was only nice and a gentleman.
When I told him I was getting a divorce our conversations changed. I have plans to go back to Paris soon. Nowhere is particularly safe for black women in Europe. The politics of the West is shifting or has shifted to the right to far right. Europe is a continent and you will be moving to a country.
Do you have one in mind? Research what is happening there. Hate crimes are being reported more often in Britain post-Brexit, neo-Nazis are marching in Sweden post the Trump election, etc. Do your homework so you know what you may be getting into. Just like in the US we have to keep our eyes and ears open. Living in Boston or Seattle gives you the same effect. My worse dating experiences by far were in NYC. Black women or women in general are basically invisible there, the men are complacent and very superficial.
And sadly the black men who did hit on me were no where near as educated or successful as I am which matters to me. Coincidentally the only two men who were the craziest about me were both European men who were visiting NYC temporarily on business.
Each of them were like a whirlwind romance that you can only write about in books. One was German and the other was Swedish and they were both incredible men who simply adored me. One even wanted me to move with him, which I declined. Interestingly enough I had the same experience while living in Boston and visiting Seattle. I am a brown chocolate girl with big curly hair and I was getting hit on by white men way more than her.
It made our friendship a little weird because we were both shocked by it. One of the comments I read on here has stated that there is a lot of political upheaval going on in many European countries right now.
I agree, because I read about it often. Maybe when I do finally move to a European country of my choice that all of this political upheaval will have settled down by then. When we were in Europe no one seemed to bat an eye.
Our life was good there—we had the regular fights of a couple, but they were not race related. Things abruptly changed the moment we landed in the States for a vacation. Traveling from New York to Washington, DC and then on to New Orleans via Atlanta, the looks and commentary increased with each line latitude we defended. He noticed the eye-rolls and headshakes from other passengers as we held hands at the airport speaking in Italian.
After several years we broke up. As I left my twenties and embraced my thirties I traveled further afar. As I traveled with these men in lands where they were the minority, I sometimes found myself questioning my idenity—was I a sellout? Did I have reverse jungle fever? I was on vacation with my French boyfriend.
Chasing these White girls up and down the beach for a little tourist fling or a photo. I don't think I consciously choose to date "outside my race", but maybe I do. I want to date men who have the same or greater education and earning potential as me.
I wanted to explore my new country, go on vacations, and out to dinner. I would always offer to pick up the tab but that can often be perceived as an insult.
The White men I dated were my co-workers and expat counterparts. We seemingly had more in common—like going to the beach and actually getting in the water or enjoying the sunshine on our skin. While sometimes a bit of self-doubt creeps in never let it win. Why should I limit myself to a Black and American man? The majority who cross my path only share a passport and a box on the census with me.
If I click with the 7-foot dark chocolate Senegale in the white linen shirt or the golden brown Spaniard in the leather sandals, it's my choice and I am going to date who I like. More stories tagged with: Interracial Dating transcultural black woman dating Black Travel.